From a very early age, we have been made responsible for getting certain tasks done. As children, the responsibility was usually thrust upon us. We didn’t assume responsibility for doing the laundry or mowing the yard. Our parents assigned these tasks to us. We almost always resisted doing them, whether inwardly or outwardly, but there was no way to get around them; we were held accountable. In school, it was much the same way, at least for me. Only by use of stick or carrot could you get me to crack open a math book.
As adults, we find ourselves still resisting certain tasks, but now, we are the ones that must hold ourselves accountable. No one is there to bribe or threaten us. It is up to us to be responsible. Through all the time we have spent resisting tasks, it did not relieve us from having to do them, at least not without incurring consequences. All we ever got for our resistance was the suffering that resistance creates. Recognizing this is seldom enough to dismantle our resistance though. When next year’s taxes roll around, we will still dread sitting down and paying them. Same goes for going to work on Monday mornings and cleaning out the gutters in the spring.
The problem is that certain tasks lie in opposition to our ego queen’s desires and, therefore, trigger her resistance. She wants to sleep late. She wants to read her new self-help book while she drinks her second cup of hot tea. She wants to attend to other tasks that pay more pleasurable dividends. She does not want to clean the gutters! And so it is really hard to dismantle our resistance when our ego queen has the last word on what is rewarding and what is not. As long as she sits on the throne, suffering will always be part of our experience where certain responsibilities are concerned.
Because we do suffer in our resistance in doing certain tasks, a portal is created. The portal promises greater things than what our ego queen can. It promises a new way of living that is light and free. It promises the ability to be the master creator of our own life experience. It promises entry into a higher state of being. When has sleeping late ever compared to all that! We can dismantle much of our resistance by focusing on the rewards that await us on the other side of a portal. And when our resistance is whittled down to just a tooth pick that the ego queen wields as her scepter, we will overthrow her and pass through the portal with ease.
It makes for a nice plot, and one we should be able to write, but it does require some effort on our part. We have to stay focused on the rewards of becoming our higher-self if we are to overthrow the ego queen. This means we have to actively seek out what inspires us: books, movies, people, whatever or whoever draws our attention to the rewards of living in a state of higher consciousness. By keeping our focus on the image to which we aspire, it becomes our burning desire. The desires of our ego queen begin to pale in comparison. The desire to lounge a little longer gets reduced to a dull hum while the desire to attend to our responsibilities resounds throughout our very being. Because that is what the higher-self is after all, a being that takes responsibility for the life that it leads.
Anywhere we resist our responsibilities, we will find ourselves at odds with reality. Not because the responsibilities themselves have a basis in reality, but because they are necessary in supporting our values. Our values represent the reality we wish to create. They demand that we attend to them if they are to take root and blossom into reality. If we do not assume responsibility for our values, if we try to sidestep the work it takes to support them, then we forfeit the right to influence reality. The more responsibility we are willing to accept, the more say we have in how reality will unfold.
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