Some people are equally talented at transforming their painful past experiences. Consider those who have “trashed” their lives through youthful transgressions and successfully transformed the experience into a positive platform for helping others pull through similar troubles. The same can be said for people who have experienced tragedy and used it to their advantage by building strength and compassion from it. In truth, there is nothing we have ever done or ever experienced that cannot be transformed into something valuable. In everything, including our mistakes, their lies the potential for great gains. The problem is that most of us overlook these opportunities because we are trying so hard to bury what is painful. In this way, we pay a high price for our resistance.
When we lay claim to our experiences, we are in control of what follows. It is the means by which we become the authors of our lives rather than the victims of it. We begin by acknowledging our situation with objectivity: "This is my reality; now what is my next move?" We consider the possibilities and then choose the path that is most illuminated. The light we seek may be very faint at first, but a little light is all we need to get us going in the right direction, the direction of our higher-self. If we stay true to this course, the light will grow, and we will eventually find our way out of darkness, no matter what form that darkness takes.